Seeking Financial Safety Are you willing to surrender your hopes for an authentic connection with a partner to guarantee wealth and "financial safety"?This category manifests as the need to trap a mate with looks or sex or your other physical resources while hiding what you see as a shameful inner part of yourself.The following are 10 of the many ways that low self-esteem can manifest in your romantic relationship.(Note that adult manifestations of earlier emotional, physical or sexual abuse are way too complex to be characterized in this post.Trying to do so would not do service and so those pathways to low self-esteem will be omitted from this article.)1.Seeking Insecurity Because you are familiar with situations that create low self-esteem – being left, being cheated on, etc.– you gravitate toward relationships in which you’re able to feel this familiar insecurity. If the relationship becomes too secure, you may become disinterested and bored and you may stray.If not, these experiences may feel uncomfortable now.You may get really scared as the relationship progresses because authentic connection feels so foreign and fake.
Resilience enables women to be more measured in their approach to men, rather than hysterical about it.5.Boy-Crazy With low self-esteem, it can seem as if nothing comes easily or naturally to you.Instead, because you don’t see yourself as naturally lovable, you feel like you have to fight and claw and strive for a mate.Low self-esteem can make you test or sabotage relationships that have potential, or settle for relationships in which you’re treated in a way that matches your beliefs about yourself.That said, low self-esteem doesn’t always look the same way in relationships.