They also weed out people who don't want a long-term relationship, or those with whom you're basically incompatible — say, people with vastly different educational backgrounds or religious beliefs. Daniel Williams with the Canadian Anti-Fraud Centre said most victims are over 40, fresh out of a long-term relationship and haven't dated for decades."They're vulnerable, trusting, emotionally fragile, and the scammers seem to pick up on that from a mile away," Williams said."We all think we're unique, but really we're not.
We all want the same things — to love and be loved.
But Vondie Lozano, licensed marriage and family therapist, has some other not-so-obvious flags to add to the list.
Self-description: If the user name or headline is weird, overtly sexual or otherwise inappropriate — Bangyourdaddy, 69Reasons — you can stop there, says Trish Mc Dermott, a founding team member of
But while online dating may be a great way to find your soul mate, you’ll be confronted with thousands of candidates.
And, like many other online offerings, the "product" received may not always be what was advertised.
For starters, plug their emails into a search engine."The bad guys do not reinvent the wheel," he said. It's how much money can we make, so how little can we put out?
"Scammers can counterfeit anything from dating site profiles to photos, email addresses, even seemingly official documents.
No photo, or a grainy, out-of-focus or outdated photo, are a sign that the person probably has something to hide, or else is not really serious about the dating process.Christan Marashio, founder of And Thats Why Youre Single.com, adds that “it's normal for people to have some trouble crafting a profile and to use self-deprecating humor to lighten the mood.Too much humor is usually a sign that the person is insecure and uncomfortable with being vulnerable, which could lead to problems with emotional intimacy down the road.Also avoid people that disclose too much, whether it’s a recent staph infection, bankruptcy or bad breakup.And Mc Dermott recommends steering clear of people who don’t have kids but use undue space in their profile soliciting information about the age and sex of your children.