Perhaps you feel you're aiming too high, or maybe you're aiming too low.
Says Keren, "The lifestyles we all lead these days mean we're always online, so it's more natural.
If you like each other, set a date to meet." (Just be safe: Meet in a public place, bring a cell phone and be sure someone else knows where you are.) Keren Bernard and Peter Mannes, Brooklyn, New York Keren Bernard, 35, signed on to the dating website JDate (which matches Jewish singles) mostly for fun back in 2005. "He was standing near one of my favorite architecture books.
"A friend of mine was on it, and it was free back then, so I figured why not? There were all these things he wouldn't do, like eat after 8 p.m., and after our first date he sent all these weird emails. And we went out to eat at my favorite Japanese restaurant," says Keren.
But after a while, her initial approach of putting up a profile and waiting for guys to find her seemed too passive, and she began doing some searching of her own. I thought, OK, he knows his way around a kitchen, and at the very least maybe we can see some bands together." She got in touch and, lo and behold, it turned out that Ryan had seen her profile some time back but decided not to contact her.
"He said I looked corporate and businessy in the picture because I was wearing a suit. I just had on a blazer and jeans" (which goes to show that a photo can be deceiving).