There are a lot of discussions we can have about emotions, especially if you are HIV positive and you are looking for a serious relationship.Let's talk about it A reader sent us his question about how to date with HIV. Just about everyone I meet with HIV uses it as an excuse to sleep around. Online Dating Immediately, I wonder where you're looking for love. Unfortunately most of the dating websites and apps tend to set HIv aside, but try a search for "hiv positive dating" and a ton of sites pop up dedicated to dating poz.He will be happy that you feel comfortable talking about it with him and, more than likely, will be able to allay any worry you may have. Don’t assume that you are the only one who is afraid.What will hurt his feelings is if you make assumptions and don’t give him the benefit of the doubt. Just because he was upfront and honest with you about his status, doesn’t mean he is a pro at dating while HIV-positive.HIV isn’t one of the variables that determine whether you and your partner are an emotional and physical match. If all of the other elements of a relationship seem to be in place – sexual attraction, similar tastes and a mutual like for each other’s weirdness – both of you would be a fool to let mismatched statuses get in the way.
There will always be people who talk negatively about you, no matter what or who you are doing. As long as the two of you are honest with your feelings, he won't break and you won't become HIV-positive.
He may have just as many fears or concerns as you do. If he respected you enough to tell about his status you right away, respect him enough to keep his status to yourself.
Don’t just assume that if you are comfortable with something, whether is a sexual or social situation or somewhere in between, that he is too. Talk to your friends about how he makes you feel or how good the kisses are.
There are plenty of good reasons to utter the words “lets just be friends” after a first date.
Perhaps there was no chemistry or a lack of shared interests, or maybe he was just a little bit of a dick.